V-DAY

“Love thy neighbor as thyself.”

I should be more prepared, but inevitably every year it sneaks up on me.  It happened this year on January 5th.  I was leaving the grocery store and on my way out something caught my eye.  A flash of pink…upon closer examination it was a lot of pink, like someone had poured Pepto Bismol all over a display shelf.  There they were…boxes and bags of pink, red, and white candies.  Valentine’s Day.  I was still wishing others “happy new year” and the powers that be decided it was time for the next big holiday.  Upon registering what I had seen, my first reaction was son of a…eye roll…already?

My reaction isn’t a new one and I have a sneaking suspicion that it has less to do with rushing to the next holiday and more to do with my history with this day.  When I looked back I see that up until adulthood, my experiences were mostly positive.  Picking out valentines for my classmates, the party at school, coming home with a box full of cards and if I was lucky, some of the cards had candy attached to them!  But, fast forward to adulthood and it is riddled with some success, but also loneliness, and unmet expectations.    My expectation for the day has always revolved around someone else or the absence of someone else.  Do I have plans? Do I have a special someone? Will they come through? Will we have fun? Will they get me something I like? If I go deeper beyond expectations though, because let’s be honest I could choose to let those go, I was hinging my happiness on something or someone external to myself.  This is a shaky place to reside in life.  I have learned this the hard way over the past five or so years.  My whole life, my dad always was there for me with a card, flowers, and his never ending support when an inattentive boyfriend wasn’t or when I was single.  When he passed away, I was unsure how to feel important or loved on my own.  I had to learn that.  A year and a half ago, I broke off a long term relationship.  Whatever I didn’t learn about knowing and loving myself when I lost my dad, I had to face through this experience.  Who am I? What do I like to do? What makes me feel good?  Life throws us all types of challenges: death, divorce, break-ups.  It is inevitable.  But, if you know yourself and love yourself, life’s changes and challenges can be moved through more easily.  

There is a saying that you can only love someone else as much as you love yourself.  Well, it is true.  

After interviewing people and listening to thousands of stories, Brene Brownwas able to develop a definition of love.  She proposes, “…love is not something we give or get; it is something that we nurture and grow, a connection that can only be cultivated between two people when it exists within each one of them.  We can only love others as much as we love ourselves.” Brene Brown goes on to say that this definition was tough for her to accept because she didn’t want her level of self-love to “limit” how much she can love her family members.  Do you know why? Because loving others and accepting their limitations is much easier than doing that for ourselves. 

I always get resistance from my clients about this concept.  Love myself? Put myself first? Isn’t that selfish?  It is actually the opposite.  Here is why.  You have more to give if you give to yourself first.  On top of that, your relationships experience less pressure, less expectation if you are able to take care of yourself and supply yourself with your basic needs.  We get into trouble when we overly rely on others to make us feel loved, accepted, and worthy.  It sets up an unhealthy dynamic that might work at first, but ultimately, causes resentment, self-sabotage, and hurt among other things.  Louise Haystates that, “self-love is the most important gift we can give ourselves, because when we love who we are, we will not hurt ourselves, and we will not hurt anyone else.”  

My challenge to you is to set a goal this Valentine’s Day.  Vow to love yourself.  Think a loving thought or shut down a negative one.  Set a boundary.  Say no without supplying an excuse.  Sign up for an exercise or creative class.  Learn to get quiet or meditate.   Approach yourself with compassion, forgiveness and generosity on Valentine’s Day and every other day.  It will benefit you and your relationships will become easier, more peaceful, and loving.  If you can put these principles into practice for yourself, you will be more willing to approach others in your life this way.  

This year I have been able to make peace with Valentine’s Day.  When I really examined my thoughts and feelings after my initial reaction of dread, I felt okay about not knowing what Valentine’s Day or any other day will hold for me when it comes to love–from someone else that is.  I do know what it holds when it comes to loving myself.  The work I have done in this area has been challenging, but it continues to grow and no person, no bad date, no lack of a date can take that away from me.  And that is an empowering place to be.  

 

 

Annalisa is an education research psychologist, licensed professional counselor, and registered yoga teacher.  She offers counseling, life and professional coaching, and movement therapy using yoga practices.  Her philosophy is holistic and believes it is important to examine each part of life because she truly believes everything is connected when it concerns mental, emotional, and physical suffering and pain.  Annalisa feels truly grateful to be doing this work and believes her purpose in this life is to assist others on their journeys to self-discovery and healing. You can reach her via e-mail at amgramlich@yahoo.com or by phone at 816.916.9642

 

How to get the BEST ponytail EVER!

1. Hair with texture works best!        

Try using Paul Mitchell Worked Up

It provides workable polymers, boost shine and reduces static!  

2. Knowing where to place your ponytail is KEY! 

Depending on whether you would rather show off you check bones (high ponytail!) or neck/jaw line (low ponytail!) will help you decide what ponytail is  Best for you!!

3. FULL Ponytials are where it’s at!

 

 

 

We all love the appearance of a nice thick ponytail. Using your Paul Mitchell Tease Brush start back combing at the crown of your ponytail, once you reached desired fullness, use the Paul Mitchell 413 to gently smooth over the backcomb. 

 

 

4. Don’t forget about the Smooth and Sleek ponytail!

These ponytails are timeless and classic. Start by gathering your hair in ponytail. Using the Paul Mitchell 427, iron out any bumps and/or flyaway. Finish off the Awapuhi Wild Ginger Finishing Spray for the perfect hair spray to secure any hair, resist humidity and add shine!

  

 

5. And finally, drum roll please….. The Messy Ponytail

Start by teasing hair before gathering it in a ponytail. I always like to enhance the “messy-ness” with Spray Wax because it gives the hair a bendable texture with a satin finish. Gather hair slowly, section by section without using a brush, helping ensure that messy ponytail. Using a brush will make it to sleek!  Once it is secure, if you want backcomb just a little more, feel free! 

 

Hope you enjoy these stylish new do’s! 🙂

Hyperpigmentation

Hyperpigmentation, it’s real, it sucks….it really sucks!  

What is hyperpigmentation?  It’s a grown-up thing/battle. 

Let’s say you have the opportunity to spend the majority of your 20’s living in Southern California, driving a convertible, and really enjoying the beach; you get into your late 20’s and all of the sudden you have a permanent spotty-tan on your face.  UGLY!

Technically Hyperpigmentation is “the darkening of an area of skin or nails caused by increased melanin.”

Preparing for battle, you have a few options.  

If you have loads of cash to spend on treatments, you can invest a few car-payments in peels, creams, lasers, etc.

If you are looking for something more affordable and less invasive, we have some weapons for you.  Please keep in mind, you didn’t get hyperpigmentation over night, and it will take real preserverance to win this battle. 

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Apple Cider Vinegar 

Use this as a toner DAILY.  We recommend diluting with water and using one that is organic, raw and/or unfiltered.  Braggs Apple Cider Vinegar and Trader Joe’s are great brands to choose.  Apple Cider Vinegar is also great for treating acne.

 

Lemon

Straight up lemon juice is a natural sort of bleach.  It is also great for acne as well.  Sometimes I like to just take a slice, rub in around my face, tingle and rinse.  You can also make a mask using lemon juice and honey.

 

Turmeric

Make a mask using milk, lemon juice and turmeric.  You can get away with just mixing with some water.  We don’t have any real measurements here, just make it into a paste, apply and leave on for about 10 minutes.  (You may get distracted and leave it on for too long and find your face looks like an Umpa-Lumpa.  Don’t worry, soap, water and some Apple Cider Vinegar will take care of it.)

Turmeric is an anti-inflamatory and a great skin brightener.  Indian men and women have used it for centuries as a wedding tradition to have beautiful glowing skin on their wedding day.   

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Prevention is key.  Lots of sunblock, fancy-sun-hats, and shade.  

Arming yourself up on the inside is a great idea too.  Lots of vitamin C and B-12 are great weapons.  Vitamin C helps with collagen production and B-12 regulates your pigment production.

Yoga Posture to Try: Natarajasana

 

Natarajasana

Lord of the Dance Pose

King Dancer/Standing Bow

 

Balancing and back-bending posture.

Stretches the shoulders and chest, thighs, groins, and abdomen

Strengthens the legs and ankles

 

 

  • Come into Tadasana, Mountain Pose.

  • Find your center and ground through the outer edges of your feet.

  • Extend Right Arm out, palm facing up, inside of your elbow facing out.  

  • Bend Right Leg and grab foot/ankle without tilting your wrist.

  • Align Knees 

  • Extend Left Arm straight up, palm facing right.

  • On an exhale, charge forward as you pick up your right leg.  Take your gaze towards your left hand.  

  • Hold this posture for 30+seconds


Get Your Greens

You know this!  You’ve already heard this!                                                     We are going to share our version anyways.  

YES, you need lots of leafy green stuff everyday.   No, it doesn’t always sound good, and it isn’t always convenient.  But, that doesn’t mean you can just skip out on the good stuff.  

We have a couple of easy and convenient ways for you to GET YOUR GREENS.

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Let’s first share a few of our favorite reasons to GET YOUR GREENS.

1) It will make your skin beautiful and radiant.  The more live, raw stuff you put in your body the more it will show through your skin.  We promise!

2) Immunity-Vitamins-Minerals-Antioxidants-Immunity.  (I hope we don’t have to add to this one.)

3) Digestion/Roughage.  Cleans the gut and everything else.  You probably need to poo more than you already do.  There, we said it!  

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Here are TWO sneaky ways for you to easily GET YOUR GREENS.

Chlorophyll

Yep!  Kinda like the stuff we learned about in science class.  

 You can pick up a tincture or a jar at your local health food store. 

This is our biggest “cheat” way to GET YOUR GREENS.  “If you’re not cheating, you’re not trying.”

This is kind of like the “essential oil” of green plants.  It alkalizes the body, fights infection, helps to extract toxins from the liver and detoxify.

   

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Green Smoothie

This is our favorite and most recommended way to GET YOUR GREENS.

All you really need is some greens, fruit, (anything else you want) and a blender.                                   

Here we have spinach, kale, frozen pineapple and a banana.

First, add your greens, add some water, and blend this first.

Then add Fruit and any other ingredients you would like.                           We’ve listed a few ideas below.  

And, yes blend it ALL up.

You can add more or less of whatever you want for flavor and texture.  

Some other fun things worth adding:

  • Flax meal
  • Chia seeds
  • Yogurt
  • Kefir
  • Sweeteners like honey, agave, stevia
  • Protein Powder
  • Supplement Powders/Juice
  • Nut butters

 

 

 

There are lots of other options to GET YOUR GREENS.  

Please share with us some of your favorites.   

Meet our Team – Annamarie Weddle

Annamarie Weddle has been practicing yoga since 2009, and she’s loved every minute of it.

“Once I started, I just dove in head over heels,” Annamarie said. “I became a yoga teacher because I’d started taking yoga and just really enjoyed it. I love teaching it and sharing it. And teaching has also taught me a lot about my own practice.”

Currently, Annamarie is trained in process, Vinyasa and power yoga. In all the classes she teaches, she tries to focus on the mind-body connection. Her personal emphasis in class is on intention and stress relief, setting students up for a fulfilling and holistic practice.

Plus, Annamarie says, she tries to help her students apply the content of the class to other parts of their lives.

At Hagoyah, Annamarie teaches the basics class at noon. 

“I really love the basics class because it’s a connected, feedback-oriented class,” she says. “It’s a class of instruction and a slower pace.”

Annamarie welcomes anyone to visit her class, from beginners to long-time students.

“I have a lot of people who come in and say, ‘It’s my first yoga class,’” she said, “and by the end of the class, it just clicks: this is why people love it.”

A typical day for Annamarie begins by waking up early and teaching a class, she said.  

“That’s a great part of the day because it gets you focused and allows you to set your intention for the day,” she said.

The rest of the day is flexible – because she teaches yoga all over the Kansas City metro area, she gets to see different studios and different parts of the community. These days, she spends her time at Hagoyah, Unity Temple, the Waldo Library and Belle Yoga Studio in Westport.

Annamarie loves being a part of the Hagoyah team in part because of the atmosphere, she says. “I love the concept of Hagoyah in general – the hair, the yoga, the nutrition! And I love Angela and Holly too. It’s neat to know that this is their place and it’s great to see their dreams manifested.”